Racist, yo.

[pen_grunt]

Drunk dude at the museum (American Swedish Institute) event keeps trying to grope me. I politely rebuff many times.

He gets plenty of gropes in and it's a wonder I didn't try to break his hand. But he is a friend of the guy my sister is dating and apparently he's normally a nice guy when he's not super drunk. Whatever. It's not a huge deal.

And I learn later that, apparently, I didn't let him get all handsy (or as handsy as he wanted to, I guess) because he was black.
Not because he was sloppy-drunk and violating my private space and being a douche and I told him I had a husband and newborn at home and no, in fact, I was not interested in a three way.

I guess I'm just super racist, guys.

Comments

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

It's a fact: Married wimmins who don't want strange black men they hardly know all over them are in fact--wait.

Is the correct answer Married and happy????
I'm SO confused!

Lemme go ask The Others over a plastic bottle of Thunderbird. By one of those trash can fires we're always gathered 'round in the movies an shit.

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

I'm back! I know, that was quick. But they only had grape soda, so I cut to the chase.

The proper response to the perpetrator is HANDS UP DON'T GROPE*



_{*For Blonde Haired Blue-eyed White Jesus' sake NEVER say that IRL. Also, you're welcome}

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

*snort*

I guess in his mind I should have been all, "Oh no! Liberal guilt! I'm super not racist! To prove it to you, please feel free to keep flat-out grabbing my boobs!"

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I would have broken his hands.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

I was at a loss for how to respond at the time. I wish I had been more aggressive, but so much of my brain was going, "Is this dude actually doing this right now?! WTF?!"

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

It's so much easier to Monday morning quarterback than Do The Exact Perfectly Right Thing in a shocking and unexpected situation. And I'm sure all of us wish we were there with you, too. But we weren't.

You did what you could and we're all proud of you for that, okay?

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

Holy schnikes. Seriously, BOOBS?!??!? And out in public?

He needs to get sideswiped by a truck.
I want to get in this motherfucker's face. Personally.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah. Boobs and belly. Because I just had a baby see...and someone INNOCENTLY told me that I looked great and he had to feel for himself. :/

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

Who the FUCK does that to someone they hardly know? In ANY situation?

He should be wearing an ankle bracelet. If not a back brace.

[silverpoet01.livejournal.com]

I would've kicked his ass. NO unwanted touches. EVER.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

I wish I had responded like that. I guess I'm "lucky" that this doesn't happen to me enough that I have a practiced response...I was more at a loss than anything else because I couldn't BELIEVE it was happening like that.

[eyelid.livejournal.com]

I have a very bad reaction to stranger groping. It involves violence. That would likely have been awkward at a museum event.

Oh yeah and you're totally racist.

[patrickwonders.livejournal.com]

I have a very bad reaction to stranger groping.

Unless you're fixing your contact lens? (wink)

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

It would have been awkward. I wish I HAD reacted more strongly though. It's like walking away and thinking of 1000 scathing replies to an insult. I could have reacted differently in retrospect.

[pointedthings.livejournal.com]

And not just any drunk dude. The executive director of the MN DFL! Lucky you. That experience should at least get you appointed to a nice advisory position in the Governor's cabinet. Drunk Dude was all, "You wouldn't try to push me away if I didn't look like this". I shall try harder not to date men with loser friends in the future. Sheesh.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

I should feel SPECIAL. :D

[llythefaerye.livejournal.com]

Uhg. A douche by any other color . . . or creed . . . or religion . . . or gender . . . or sexual orientation. . .

I honestly don't know if this type of shit is escalating or if we're just more aware of it as we get older and / or more observant, but it's infuriating. If you annoy me, it's not because of your skin color, geographic location, religious preferences, or who you're sexually attracted to, it's because you're an asshat. Riding the 14 these days on a semi-regular basis can be an exercise in deep breathing (usually whilst holding your nose) and patience, to be sure.

This is a shitty thing to have happened to you. I hope he gets his.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

Some people just need excuses, I guess. :/