Abstinence only, yo.

[pen_grunt]

One of d's cousins started talking about...nay, praising, this abstinence only article. I do not have enough eyerolls for it. It says things like, "Do you really want anyone but your spouse to have shared that kind of intimacy with you? Do you want to be secondhand?"

Rage. Am posting here to keep myself from railing against it. If someone wants to abstain until marriage, okay. Fine. I think it's ridiculously idiotic, but it's your decision. But to tell other people that to have sex before marriage makes them secondhand? Fuck that shit.

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[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

Rage inducing article here: http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/11/09/abstinence-is-unrealistic-and-old-fashioned/

[sacramentalist.livejournal.com]

Ridiculous.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

It truly is. I feel sorry for people who regret their past sexual experiences because they feel like they somehow have to to be loyal to their current partner.

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

That's about as smart as taking a 3000 mile road trip with someone who just got their drivers license. Has this genius watched the 'Virgin Diaries' wedding kiss?

http://youtu.be/Xp-jZyzQSms?t=19s

For fuck's sake, even Hickory Farms lets you sample the meat 'fore you walk in the store to shop.

[newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com]

FULL DISCLOSURE, TMI ALERT: I was raised as a J-Dub. Their faith will cast out those who rub or brush the clothed badoobies too often before marriage. Much less taking hold of a naked body part or (in their opinion) much worse. I got busted Trying Not to Cross the End Zone as a 21 year old. After a hearing before their elders, I wasn't cast out, but was barred from getting married in their church.

I didn't know what the SHIT I was doing in bed. And had no one to talk to/ask questions about it. I really did want to know...so I frequented the library / B. Dalton for help and how 'bout you make your own punchline? But that was years ago.

Does B wanna know details about my past? No. Is she happy somebody told me what was working and what wasn't? Absolutely.

That article reeks of patriarchal 'Don't bring home your dirty girl-parts' nonsense. Or a man who doesn't want to know how much HE sucks in the sack/how small he is/something else I can't think off from the top of my head.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

That article reeks of patriarchal 'Don't bring home your dirty girl-parts' nonsense.

Yes. It does. It's gross.

Does B wanna know details about my past? No. Is she happy somebody told me what was working and what wasn't? Absolutely.

This is how I feel exactly. I mean, I don't mind so much hearing about D's past at the appropriate times (i.e. don't bring it up while we're...you know...) and it can be fun sometimes (he and his ex-girlfriend managed to have quickie-sex on a rollercoaster once. I'm not sure HOW that worked...) but mostly I'm glad that he has a past full of positive sexual experiences. And that he knows what's where.

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

Oh god. That kiss. I would ask for an annulment.

[tediousandbrief.livejournal.com]

Grrrr. I couldn't even get through the whole thing.